Why do I get defensive with feedback?

People get defensive when they receive feedback if they think the person giving it has negative intentions — for instance, that they’re trying to place the blame on someone else, to cover up their own mistakes.

How do I accept feedback gracefully?

How to accept feedback gracefully

1. Have a plan. Receiving constructive criticism can make people feel defensive or emotional.
2. Ask questions.
3. Look for feedback often.
4. Don’t forget about your strengths.
5. Written might work better.
6. Make changes.
7. Thank your colleagues.

How do you take critical feedback without getting defensive?

Here’s how you can take critical feedback without getting defensive. Active listening means that you’re really hearing the feedback rather than just waiting for your turn to speak. The most important thing you can do when you’re receiving criticism is to listen actively.

Why is honest feedback important?

Honest feedback is fundamental to cultivating a deepening self-awareness. The self-aware leader is a growing leader. And growing leaders are the best leaders. Here are 9 approaches and practices that will help you develop a culture of honest feedback without getting defensive.

Does off-mission feedback help or hurt you?

Sometimes the negative feedback was from people who were off-mission or who were honestly just negative people. While you can always glean a nugget from even your worst critic, feedback from off-mission or negative people rarely helps you develop your fullest potential.

How do you respond to people who critique you?

Don’t offer excuses, reasons or get your back up. Tell them why you needed to hear it. Ask questions. Dig deeper. It signals to them you value what they say, and they will know they have not wasted their time. 5. Thank them Seriously, thank every person who critiques you.