Why do we fall for emotionally unavailable people?
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Something in their childhood – at the extreme end, abuse (physical or emotional) and trauma can cause someone to become emotionally unavailable. Also growing up in a chaotic household where emotions were acted out aggressively or in an uncontrollable way might cause someone to shut down as a means of protection.
How To Stop Dating Emotionally Unavailable People
- Notice The Signs Early On.
- Get Honest With Yourself About Why You Keep Going After The Same Type.
- Cut The Tethering.
- Insist On Identifying The Relationship After Some Time.
- Recognize That You’re Not Meant To Be Their Savior.
- Develop Your Sense Of Self.
Can an emotionally unavailable person love someone?
Can Emotionally Unavailable Men Fall in Love? The short answer is an emphatic yes. Even a damaged human is still human. And humans still crave connection.
They rarely (if ever) return your calls or answer your texts.
Being Emotionally Unavailable is a coping mechanism, of pushing people away and keeping them from knowing their true self, who they really are, what they believe and think, how they really feel. These type of people tend to act extremely independent and think they can take care of themselves. They don’t want to have to rely on anyone.
What makes someone emotionally unavailable?
Emotional unavailability can be a temporary situation. It can be caused by breakups or breakdowns of relationships that were important to the person in the past. For instance, if someone had a deep, meaningful relationship for many years and then that relationship ended, it can leave a lot of hurt and anguish to get over.
Another reason you might be attracting emotionally unavailable partners is you may not be open with your own emotions. If you struggle with self-esteem, shyness, or feelings of inadequacy (like you’re not good enough), you may find it difficult to be authentic and vulnerable in intimate relationships.