How does a narcissist devalue you?

Hence, the narcissist begins to put their partner down or holds back on being intimate or showing their affection. When their partner pushes back, the narcissist might turn things around—perceive themselves as the victim and blame their partner, which allows them to further devalue them.

What happens when you discard the narcissist first?

This cycle confirms the narcissist’s distorted sense of being superior to their victims. If the victim ‘discards’ the narcissist first, he or she upsets the power dynamic that bolsters the abuser’s desire for power and validation.

What happens when you ignore a narcissist who dumped you?

They will lash out – narcissists thrive on using others as a source to make them feel important. If you ignore them and deny them of their source, they may become enraged. They will essentially have a tantrum and throw insults and threats at you.

What makes good narcissistic supply?

Primary. The primary narcissistic supply is based on attention in both its public forms such as recognition, fame, infamy, stardom, and its private, more interpersonal, types of praise, admiration, applause, fear, and repulsion.

Does the narcissist prefer you over the new supply?

In your heart, you may want very much for the narcissist to prefer you over the new supply but, the fact is, narcissists don’t really miss any of their former supply sources. Narcissists don’t stay in relationships because they emotionally bond with their partner (s). Narcissists typically have what is called an avoidant attachment style.

Is the devaluation a Hoover against you?

The commencement of the devaluation when you are uncovering what we are is a massive distraction exercise designed to protect us and harm you. This is not a hoover against you. Instead it is the opportunity which suddenly arises to hoover a predecessor.

Will a narcissist leave someone who is rich?

Narcissists have been known to leave someone who is wealthy and take up with someone on government assistance. Don’t try to analyze the narcissist’s motives and mindset against your own. You cannot make sense of the situation by believing they will think or act like you. You can only gain an advantage by thinking as THEY do.

How do we defend ourselves against devaluation?

In order to defend ourselves we must immediately switch to the devaluation and extract the negative fuel from you which will power us to the extent we want and demand. Our sense of entitlement, inability to recognise and respect boundaries and huge need for control means that we have to have you do what we want.