How do you deal with a defensive sister?

Here are several steps that can help you become more emotionally intelligent when dealing with defensive people:

1. Refrain from reacting defensively.
2. Shift your focus to the other person.
3. Ask questions until you understand them.
4. Move toward a resolution.

What causes a defensive personality?

Summary: Research has shown that defensiveness in response to wrongdoing is exacerbated by making the wrong doer feel like they’re an outcast. Defensive behaviours are common responses when people feel personally attacked but can undermine our ability to identify problems and find solutions.

How do you deal with someone who is defensive?

3 ways to start a conversation with a defensive person:

1. Calmly state your intentions up-front. For particularly sensitive topics that you’re almost sure will generate a defensive response, it can be helpful to just anticipate it.
2. Avoid leading with an accusation.
3. Steer clear of “always,” “never,” and “you” statements.

Why are some people more prone to being defensive than others?

In regards to defensive behavior, some people are just more prone to it. Some people have nervous systems that respond more frequently and intensely to sensory stimulation. They may have a more exaggerated startle response than other people do, even in the same family.

What do you do when your partner is too defensive?

Response 1 is defending and turning-around. Response 2 is acknowledging some part of the criticism. In summary, if your partner’s too defensive, make sure you’re not being too critical. The cure for defensiveness is taking responsibility for some part of the criticism.

What is sibling alienation and how can you avoid it?

Sibling alienation occurs when one adult sibling wants to push aside another. While sibling alienation can occur at any point, one sibling may be especially tempted to alienate another in order to gain control of care-taking or inheritance outcomes with aging parents.

Why do adult siblings falsely claim other siblings are inheriting more?

The motivation of an adult sibling who falsely claims either that another sibling is harming the aged parent in their care, or of one who falsely claims that another sibling is receiving more than their share of the inheritance, generally stems from several roots.