How do I break my co dependency?

Some healthy steps to healing your relationship from codependency include:

1. Start being honest with yourself and your partner.
2. Stop negative thinking.
3. Don’t take things personally.
4. Take breaks.
5. Consider counseling.
6. Rely on peer support.
7. Establish boundaries.

Can you be codependent and an enabler?

Enabling is a sign of codependency, in which one person, who acts as a caretaker or rescuer, enables another person to continue their destructive behavior. Codependent relationships are one-sided and often manipulative, with the enabler invariably doing more than his share.

What is the difference between being codependent and an enabler?

A codependent frequently tries to take responsibility for the feelings and shortcomings of others, even when unfounded or unmerited. An enabler often allows this to happen, often without realizing it. Remind your partner that your feelings are your own – you control them, as you do your own destiny.

Can you be dependent and codependent at the same time?

Being codependent is hardly the same thing as simply being dependent. And in some ways, it’s crucial that these two types of dependency be recognized as distinct (as too often hasn’t been the case). Not that codependent individuals aren’t dependent on others.

Why do I struggle with codependency?

As for the origins of these codependent (CODA) behaviors, there are many situations which can create this personality type; growing up in a divorced/dysfunctional household where addiction was present (ACOA= Adult Child of an Alcoholic), having perfectionistic/permissive parents, being the ‘lost child’ or ‘black sheep’ …

What is the healthy version of codependency?

Healthy dependency vs. codependency

Healthy Dependence	Codependence
You feel safe and secure in your relationships.	You fear rejection, criticism, and abandonment.
You’re able to disagree or say “no” without guilt.	You’re afraid of conflict, have poor boundaries, and expect perfection.