What should I do if I see someone crying?
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What should I do if I see someone crying?
How to Comfort Someone Who’s Sad/Crying
- “Witness” their feelings.
- Affirm that their feelings make sense.
- Show the person you understand their feelings, and facilitate the deepening of his or her own understanding of them.
- Don’t minimize their pain or try to cheer them up.
- Offer physical affection if appropriate.
What do you do when you see a girl crying?
Even if it makes you uncomfortable, let her cry as much as she needs to. She will likely feel better for doing so. In general, avoid any commands, negative language, or imperatives. Stay away from phrases such as, “Don’t cry,” “You shouldn’t be sad,” or “That doesn’t sound too bad.”
What do you do when someone is crying and not crying?
Acknowledge the connection you feel with the person. Don’t hold onto their emotions. Exhale and relax your body. Release any tension you are holding. Let the emotion subside while still feeling compassion. All criers come out of it if you give them a safe space to process and relieve the stress that prompted their tears.
How do you cheer someone up when they are crying?
They don’t need you to cheer them up. They need you to acknowledge they are okay no matter what they feel. And don’t run to get a tissue for a crier. After you give them a moment of safe silence, you can ask if they would like a tissue if one is available.
Why is it bad to comfort someone who is crying?
Their reactions are more harmful than helpful. If you rush in to soothe the crier, they might feel weak, embarrassed, or even guilty they made you uncomfortable. They might feel less understood or even disrespected. You aren’t supporting them to process their emotions when you interrupt to render aid.
What happens when someone cries in a conversation?
When someone cries in a conversation, the other person often reacts out of their own discomfort. Their reactions are more harmful than helpful. If you rush in to soothe the crier, they might feel weak, embarrassed, or even guilty they made you uncomfortable. They might feel less understood or even disrespected.