Why is cheating in a relationship wrong?

Cheating is not only a violation of trust, but also a betrayal of values. “Infidelity is not a judgment or an indictment of the person who’s being cheated on,” Marin says. “It’s not because they’re a bad person or not attractive or sexy. It’s much more about what’s going on with the person that cheated.”

What are the side effects of cheating?

Effects of Infidelity on the Uninvolved Partner

• Anxiety.
• Depression.
• Increased distress.
• Low confidence and self-esteem.
• Self-blame or shame.
• Rage.
• Posttraumatic stress (PTSD)
• Poor performance at work.

Why do people cheat on their spouses?

A cheating spouse may tell themselves that their husband or wife is to blame for their behavior. They may even convince themselves that their spouse is a terrible person, or that they are the one being victimized, and are simply seeking an escape. This is a lot easier than cheating on someone who loves and trusts you.

Did your cheating partner make a mistake?

Your cheating partner didn’t “make a mistake.” They didn’t “let their emotions get the best of them.” And they certainly weren’t “seduced” by some homewrecker. These statements take the power—and consequently, the blame—from the cheater.

What does it feel like when someone cheats on You?

“When someone is cheating, they very often feel guilty, don’t want to face the conflict of confession, or they’re torn between what they have done wrong and what needs to happen next,” Joshua Klapow, PhD, clinical psychologist and host of The Kurre and Klapow Show, tells Bustle. “It creates anxiety and distress and guilt.”

Is cheating always the cheater’s choice?

Cheating is always the choice of the cheater. They could have stopped and made any number of less hurtful choices along the way, such as communicating their needs to you, or even simply calling it quits and talking about divorce so that they could be free to do as they please. Instead, they chose to betray you and lie about it.